Lauren Kate from MadMaxMum is truly an inspirational woman. As if battling with depression isn't hard enough... imagine trying to juggle 2 beautiful babies, a business and your own sanity... oh and on top of that being a single mother!!
I have followed Lauren Kate on social media for some time now and everytime I start to feel like I have no time, drive or motivation to do anything I stalk her Instagram for some inspiration. Honestly, I don't know how she does it sometimes? So I had to ask her! Instead of asking this Superwomen to find some time to draft up a blog post for me, I decided to interview her.
Tell us a little bit about your story.
When I was my last year of high school, I was in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship which led to me suffering from severe depression and anxiety for the next 5 years of my life. I was in and out of hospital for suicide attempts, couldn’t hold a job because my anxiety was so severe that I would take prescription pills to numb the feeling and I was partying way too hard. I never thought that I’d live past my 21st birthday, and I used to walk around and confidently tell people that. That all changed when I fell pregnant with my first child, and I turned my life around for good.
For new readers visiting your blog, what should they expect when reading your content?
Real, raw honest. I write from the heart and I write what’s in my head.
What are your goals for the next 2 years?
My goal is to build my career as much as I possibly can. I have 2 amazing kids to take care of and I love being so independent - because it’s something that it took me a long time to feel! Once upon a time I never had goals, because I didn’t care about living, but now I love life.
How long were you battling with depression?
I suffered severely for five years.
What did you do to seek help?
I saw many psychologists, psychiatrists and counsellors. At the time I didn’t know how sick I really was, to the point where I guess I was delusional and nothing helped. I had a supportive family, and yet I was in so much pain that I was oblivious to the help that I needed.
What was one of your biggest life lessons?
I wish that many years ago that I knew the benefits of exercise and wellness. I wish I knew more about mindfulness and how to process thoughts. I had no idea and I want to help every person suffering right now to begin learning the incredible benefits that changing your lifestyle can do. It may not “cure” what’s going on, but it will most certainly help.
How did you “find yourself”?
When I became a mother. I never thought I’d be one, I never intended to have kids however the day I found out that I was pregnant my life changed and for the first time in my life I felt like I had a purpose. Yes, I had purpose before becoming a mother, but for me this was the life changing event that I needed to turn my life around.
What do you do to help prevent yourself from sinking into depression?
I practice mindfulness every single day. I process my thoughts and recognise when I don’t feel so good. I also have an amazing group of people around me who love and care. I exercise, I eat well and I make sure I practice gratitude on a daily basis.
What inspires you?
My children inspire me to become the best version of myself, every single day. They are my purpose and the reason I do everything that I do.
Do you have inspiring advice you could give someone who is still trying to find “themselves”?
Remember that the same boiling water that softens the potato hardens the egg. It’s about what you’re made of, not the circumstances. If you’re facing a tough time in your life, recognise what causes you to be unhappy and take action to change it. Getting help is nothing to be ashamed of, but you have the chance to change your life and your mindset at any second of the day. Why not start now, you could inspire someone with your story, your struggle and your strength.